Why Men Hate Going To Church

(Available on Amazon.

I discovered this book pretty much “by accident”. A conversation with a friend had led to looking on the internet at some of the different programs available in the UK and the US for men, and I came across an article by David Murrow on Pastors.com, and liked it so much that I bought the book.

Essentially the book divides into 3 broad sections – an identification of a problem, namely that there is a gender gap within the church, generally regardless of denomination, country or style. Then he attempts to explain why this problem has occurred, his main point being that the church (and it’s view of Christianity and Jesus) has become overly feminised. Finally he bring some suggestions as to how you can solve these issues practically.

I read a lot, but I’m not overly quick, but I managed to rifle through this book in a weekend. ‘Devoured’ is probably the best word. To say that this book has changed the way that I look at not only my current church, but also churches that I have been part of in the past, is a total understatement. IMHO this book is revolutionary. It’s not without it’s controversies, but I believe that most of those come from a misunderstanding of what Murrow is trying to say.

But more than a book about church, it’s also a book that helps to redefine what it is to be a Christian man. I think that many men struggle to reconcile their understanding of Christian and some of the character traits that define what it is to be “a man”. This book is extremely helpful in resolving that conflict.

I read the book back in January, then again in February, and then we had our church mens weekend away based on the book as a theme. It’s now March, and I am _still_ talking about this book, and _still_ mulling over the implications and practical realities. It’s that good.

If you’re a man, and you would describe yourself as Christian, and struggle with your church, or even to attend any church, then this will be a great book to read. But, even more importantly, if you’re a church member, man or woman, I would urge you to read this book.

David Murrow also has a website at ChurchForMen.com and there is a discussion forum at CFMBoards.com.

mrBen