Right. I’ve been married for just over a month now and it’s time for an update.
It’s no lie that living with someone (not just sharing their space but really living with them…) is stressful. There are loads of daft wee problems that rear their ugly heads and most of them seem to stem from space (as in “not having enough”, not “that place where the aliens come from”), personal time, general housekeeping and, well, then it starts getting personal…
The one thing I’ve learned, and I know I have to keep reminding myself this is the case, is that this is all a learning experience (and probably will be for the rest of our lives) and that to keep an open, forgiving heart is paramount.
Sure I get on Ruth’s nerves and we’ve been bickering and fighting almost every weekend since getting married, but that doesn’t matter. What matters is that all these arguments and fights represent problems and issues that have to be faced so that the relationship can mature properly.
And by far the most important thing is that we love each other. I never realised how necessary that was until you reach that first big fight… I’ve realised how much closer Ruth and I have become in the last few week and even writing this now is reminding me how much I’m looking forward to the next however-many years.
Ah, to be young and in love…